On a recent trip back to KL, I met up with a good friend. We met over nasi lemak and a car wash. Well, it is one of those routines I regularly keep whenever I go back to KL. I drop by late at night to a 24 hour carwash, and have a delicious, piping hot plate of nasi lemak at my favourite stall in Kampung Baru. This time, I had a good friend with me.
We talked the usual guy talk - girls, cars, girls, wifey and kids, girls, work, etc etc. Did I mention girls?
The conversation took a serious tone when we started talking about the added responsibility of being and adult (err.. read as unker!). We started talking about this as a spin off from a discussion about his brother in law's recent wedding. This guy is 28 and is just a big kid who can't even tie his own shoelace (metaphorically speaking). His wife is stationed overseas, so all the planning etc was left to him. Now, if you have ever been involved in any kind of even planning (let a lone a wedding) you know how much work is involved. This guy did practically nothing until 2 weeks before the wedding. In the end everyone, including my friend Nick, had to jump in and salvage the whole thing.
While this was not the purpose of this post, here is a taste of how irresponsible this fellow is. One week before the wedding he disappears, doesn't pick up phone calls and even forgot to go pick his fiance up from the airport. When someone finally got him on the phone his answer was "i'm too stressed from the wedding planning". err... what planning? he didn't do anything, remember?
Which brings me to my point. As an adult (err.. read as Unker!) we have so many responsibilities on our little iddy biddy (ok.. i meant giant fat) shoulders. Yet, deep down inside, most of us really would rather be having fun and letting the child in us out to play. Its important to strike a balance - not too serious all the time with 'adult' (read as Unker!) things, but at the same time, need to ensure not 100% childish and irresponsible. It gets harder and harder to strike this balance, in my opinion, as one gets older and the responsibilities get heavier (like my tummy gets heavier)... the danger is that we end up on either extreme - being too uptight and angry all the time from all the stress brought on by the responsibilities, or being totally irresonsible and letting everything get messed up until eventually, you end up with extra stress trying to sort them out before the police come!
What do you think?